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keep those questions coming guys! For those who don't know me yet, i turned my journal to an advice column. you can ask me anything and i will answer. Feel free to either send your question to my page, unique_trini or send it to my email address: lordbirch@gmail.com. So, keep those questions coming!
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It's a very interesting question roused about by an incident that included my best friend. Let's call him Tom. Life (movies, books and over-rated TV shows) loves to include gay bashing scenes. A couple of jocks picking on a gay kid, here, a few guys cornering a gay couple in an alley, there. Why are these things happening?! Is it pure hatred? Or is it the proverbial "fear what you don't understand?"
I was talking to Tom one day and i asked him how work was going. He works at a bank in the east at the time. He said it was fine. He has been working there for only a few months and though he had befriended a number of people, he had only connected with one. We'll just call him Kyle. Kyle was just about Tom's age (he woouldn't tell me) and had mesmorising hazel brown eyes which earned him the nickname "Brown Eyez" wwith one of Tom's friends who was living vicariously through him. Now, during work hours, they were almost inseparable and during those months, Tom considered Kyle to be a very close friend. So with that in mind, he decided to take the next step in their wirlwinded friendship and tell him that he was gay.
At frist glance, Kyle seemed to be handling it well and no one could have complained, but just a few days after, if not the next, he began acting differently. He as distant and stood reserved and instead of being more open, Tom ended up being in the closet again. What happened? What caused Kyle to act this way? Was he acting out of fear? And if he was, what did he fear? Which brings me back to my initial question: could it be that the Straights are afraid of the Gays? What do you think about this?
Current Mood:
aggravated aggravated
Current Music:
kelly clarkson
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Have anyone ever had one? Well, mine was kinda creepy. i was in downtown in an Internet Cafe, updating my journal. i got the strangesr feeling that i was being watched, but i didn't pay too much attention to it. i left the cafe and entered the food court where i proceeded upstairs to the restroom. i then noticed this man, not younger than twenty five, wearing a canary yellow shirt and navy blue pants and cap, also coming up the stairs. as i entered the restroom, everything was occupied so i went over to the sink to wash my hands. i looked over at the man who followed me into the restroom and saw him making eye-signals at me! Creeped out a bit, i exited the room and went downstairs and noticing the man following me, i stood by a nearby fountain where i took out my cellphone and faked a phone call to my friend. i was monitering the man's movements. he stopped close to where i was standing, trying to look preoccupied with something. So fake. i couldn't stay there anymore so i went outside and just stand there, "talking" to my friend. He then came up behind me and i couldn't handle it. i spun around and said, "Are you stalking me? Because if you are, i have to say that's kinda creepy!" then he had the ordacity to tell me to meet him in the upstairs bathroom of the nearest mall! As he walked off and turned the corner, i ran the other way and got in the nearest taxi. i told my best friend what happened and he said, "Oh, your first stalker!"
Current Mood:
anxious anxious
Current Music:
my chemical romance
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You Know You're Gay When;
1. You wear the appropriate underwear for each of your dates.
2. You understand the subtle differences between at least 20 brands of vodka.
3. You understand the immense importance of good (or bad) lighting.
4. You can be in a crowded bar and still spot a toupee from 50 yards away.
5. You can tell a woman you love her bathing suit and mean her bathing suit.
6. You can tell a woman she has lipstick on her teeth without embarrassing her.
7. No one expects you to kiss and not tell.
8. You can have naked pictures of men you know in your home.
9. You can have naked pictures of men you don't know in your home.
10. You can have naked pictures of men you don't know in your home and on your computer.
11. Unlike your women friends, you can hang out in men's locker room.
12. You understand why the good Lord created spandex.
13. You understand why the good Lord did not intend everyone to wear spandex.
14. You know the difference between a latte, cappuccino, cafe au lait and a macchiato. And if you don't, you know how to fake it.
15. You know how to get back at just about everyone.
16. Your pets always have great names.
17. Nobody expects you to change a tire.
18. You're the only guy who gets to do the "Cosmo" quizzes.
19. You know how to get a waiter's attention.
20. You only wear polyester when you mean to.
21. At any given instant, you can recite who was gay since the dawn of history.
22. You are, hands down, your nephew's and nieces' favorite uncle.
23. You get to choose your family.
24. You can tell your sexual compatibility with a potential partner by the way he holds his drink.
25. You can smile to let someone know you can't stand them.
26. You wouldn't be caught dead in Hooters.
27. You can freeze an approaching bar troll twenty feet away.
28. You're good pals with women other people can't stand.
29. You've always got an opinion, and don't mind sharing it.
30. You've read the book, seen the movie, done the musical.
Current Mood:
horny horny
Current Music:
ricky martin
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what's up? i hate to sound like fortune cookie or i've just returned from a spiritual journey, but the truth is that life is funny. And life has a way of picking you up by the shirt collar and shaking you to realise something. I think what life is telling you at the moment is that you have your whole amazing life to find the person who makes you complete and safe. Accept the slow pace and use it to your advantage. I'm sure you don't want your high school to know you as the "Gay Slut"! Use the slow pace so that you could closely take a look at the person who you want to date. Also it is natural for someone who has been with someone during a whole year and feels lonely when he is alone. But you have to know that you don't need a man to feel good. Practice individualism. Maybe this was life's way of telling you that it's time to focus on yourself. Read a rivoting book that you wouldn't be able to put down. Heck, write a book! Write about what happened last year, i bet it would be a page-turner. I'll read it. I hope my advice was a bit helpful. Pleas feel free to send another queation. I'm here to help.
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This issue can be very tricky if you don't know what's important to you. I mean, what does a person do when he's in love with his best friend, especially if the "best friend" is already involved? First of all, you should decide what is more important; his friendship or the possibility of his love or hatred. But don't be over-dramatic! Movies and Popular Culture tend to portray these situations as: boy has crush on boy, boy befriends boy to get closer to him, boy is afraid to confess his love to boy, boy is confused about what to do, boy tells his love, boy kisses boy. Sadly enough, it doesn't always happen like that. Sometimes, boy is left broken-hearted because his friend doesn't feel the same way. Life is unsure and it is certainly risky, so ask yourself again. What is more important to you? His friendship or the possibility of his love or his hatred? Yes, it can be a bit intimidating, but you have to do something before your feelings eat you from the inside out! Now, if you chose friendship, there's nothing wrong with that. Be his friend, listen to him, talk to him . . . love him, just not romantically. And if you chose to take the risk, accept it, what ever it is. Good friends doesn't come easily so even if it doesn't work out and you don't hate his guts for not having mutual feelings, continue to be his best friend and believe that your Mr. Right is close by. SIGNED unique_trini
Current Mood:
crazy crazy
Current Music:
kelly clarkson
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okay guys, lets talk about gay ex boyfriends. Every one at least have one, but what i'm going to be talking about is the "Break up." First of all, when you are ready to breakup, make sure you have a good reason or a good enough reason for you. In a breakup, you are the most important person there. What you think matters, what you want to do is the only thing you have to do. Another thing, make it quick, don't draw it out because the longer you take to breakup, the less important the "wanting to breakup" would become and trust me, you don't want that! Next, confront the guy in person. Be a man! Don't do it over the phone or on email and please for the love of God, please don't do it over a post-it!!!! That way, the person will see you walk away from him, getting the picture that it's over. And please don't look back, no matter how much you want to see the person's reaction. keep head forward and up and think that it was the right thing to do for you. the most importyant person is you. you have to look out for your happiness and if the person doesn't contribute to it, then he's gotta go! Now, there are going to be people who, even after the breakup, still constantly call, you have two options. 1. you can screen your calls or 2. you can tell him that you don't want him to call anymore. You don't owe him an explanation because that would drag out that particular phone call. End it and end it quick! Your very happiness depends on it!
Current Mood:
calm calm
Current Music:
lindsey lohan
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Ok guys, here is what i need to know. I'm black and i have gray eyes. Don't worry, i don't worship the devil; it's contacts. i talked to my Canadian friend this morning who also wears gray contacts. Now he says that it drives the guys and girls wild up there and that green contacts have the same effect. What do you think? As for my gray eyes, my username did say that i was unique. SIGNED unique_trini.
Current Mood:
contemplative contemplative
Current Music:
ashlee simpson
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